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  • Writer's pictureCait Donovan

#straightfromcait: What to Do When You Suck at Relaxing

Updated: Sep 28, 2022

Do you ever feel like there are so many things to get done that relaxing is downright impossible? Are your body and brain so busy that sitting still just doesn’t feel like rest? If you are feeling this way, you are far from alone. The art of resting and sitting with your emotions takes patience and practice; it is something I have been working on for years and have yet to perfect.

The most important thing to realize is that rest looks different for everyone. Whether it is watching a lighthearted movie or TV show, reading a good book, or simply slowing down your pace, relaxation is ultimately whatever you need it to be. While it may seem like the more you get done now, the more you can rest later, this usually is not the case. Instead, by learning how to sit still and just be, you will ultimately save yourself time and energy in the long run.

Tune into this week’s #straightfromcait episode for a conversation about what to do when you suck at relaxing. Learn about when I first began my practice of sitting, how to become the observer of your emotions and how to reduce your speed to get more done.


  • “It was that day that my practice of relaxation and resting and sitting began nearly sixteen years ago, in a tiny hostel in Buenos Aires.” (03:50-04:00)

  • I have this internal belief that if I do more now, I can rest more later.” (04:35-04:45)

  • “If I just stop once in a while and allow myself to rest in whatever way I feel, I end up still getting all the things done that actually need to get done.” (06:24-06:36)

  • “Allowing myself to deep dive into fiction is what moves my business forward because that’s where my ideas come from, that’s where my brain has time to exercise itself and come up with ideas.” (10:57-11:07)

  • “My best advice is to reduce your speed of doing things by 10-20%. Feel free to keep yourself moving and, at the same time, just make an attempt to be more present, more focused and move a little more slowly.” (12:38-12:55)

  • Relaxation and resting in a world that tells us we’re not supposed to is a rebellious act and it is a practice....If you start practicing rest today, you might feel lazy, guilty, non-productive and all of those things for at least the first few weeks, if not longer. It takes practice also to move through those emotions.” (13:51-14:18)




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