Should Mode vs. Thrive Mode with Anne Ditmeyer
“Social media also hasn’t helped, as it seemingly rewards those who never pause to take a break. Behind the scenes, they’re burning the candle at both ends, but instead, society and algorithms reward more is better, quantity over quality. It’s dangerous, particularly when the reality is rarely shared, so everyone else lives with a complex that they’re not doing enough.” - Anne Ditmeyer
Anne Ditmeyer is an American designer, creative coach, and explorer who has called Paris home since 2009. She pulls from her experience in graphic design, UX design, design thinking and storytelling to bring her own unique approach to everything she does. She never imagined she’d start her own business, but that’s how she was able to stay in France, and eventually become a citizen, earning her second passport.
She started her blog Prêt à Voyager (translation: ready to travel) in 2007, as a way to explore the intersection of travel and design. More recently she’s pivoted towards creative entrepreneurship and coaching, sharing stories she learned the hard way on her business blog
Anne and I have a major thing in common: we are both EU/US Dual Citizens. We talked about our different experiences both in the US and in the EU - what it made us think about vacations and the 'right' way to do things. During this episode Anne gives us loads of good advice, she said that when burnt out, we should stop and CHECK 3 Things..
CHECK - in with your body - see where the discomfort it, try to find out what it's about
CHECK - "I Shoulds" - are you in should mode? What would happen if you said I can instead of I should, or I will not instead of I should - are there things you're doing that don't need to be done? CHECK - c'est comme ca - it is what it is - are you repeating tasks because 'that's how it's always been"? Can you review the way you do things and find easier ways for some of them? Seems simple, but I know that especially that last one gets me all the time. I do tasks the way my mother, father, or a boss did them. I don't stop to think about whether it's the most efficient or even the way I'd like to do it...I just go on automatic mode and assume that's the best fastest way but oftentimes, I'm wrong. I've found a million easier ways to do things over time - have you? Listen to this week's episode in the player above or head to: www.wavve.link/fried XOXO C